I was 0 days old when I first heard the term “tend and befriend” as an alternative stress response to fight or flight. Seriously, though it’s a massive shift – it explains my mama bear complex and honestly makes me feel less “weird.” Check out the podcast below for more shit kicking wisdom.
I think, this idea is something I’ve always known. Having language that fits our experience is empowering and comforting. “Rationality”, is rooted in the need for people to compare notes, to rationalize and make sense of the world by sharing perspectives. We can use more pedagogy that is not rooted in fixed zero-sum thinking.